Article: 3338 of alt.support.depression.recovery NNTP-Posting-Date: Thu, 12 Jun 2003 13:51:01 -0500 From: depressed_and_anxious@yahoo.com (Suzanne) Newsgroups: alt.support.depression.recovery Subject: Re: Overcoming Social Isolation... Any Suggestions? Date: Thu, 12 Jun 2003 18:50:56 GMT Message-ID: <3ee8c8bf.12606625@news.pa.comcast.giganews.com> References: X-Newsreader: Forte Free Agent 1.21/32.243 Lines: 36 NNTP-Posting-Host: 68.82.90.198 X-Trace: sv3-NuWqDHbvg0o4y/za0NBcUgI0i3Pm/iw6iiRAeEd/yyPm0thz/xXttWbA1DXdAHw4Lpe7MmxTkAD+WJu!zsX4wtWZ/yOrgZzA350BKG0TYl42LiXouONTlPHoU38RGHb05LhALGYf2QP3bPzPRxuaCpfl/0nx X-Complaints-To: abuse@comcast.net X-DMCA-Complaints-To: dmca@comcast.net X-Abuse-and-DMCA-Info: Please be sure to forward a copy of ALL headers X-Abuse-and-DMCA-Info: Otherwise we will be unable to process your complaint properly X-Postfilter: 1.1 Path: news.meer.net!sea-read.news.verio.net!dfw-artgen!dfw-peer!news.verio.net!crtntx1-snh1.gtei.net!news.gtei.net!newsfeed1.easynews.com!easynews.com!easynews!border3.nntp.aus1.giganews.com!intern1.nntp.aus1.giganews.com!nntp.giganews.com!nntp.comcast.com!news.comcast.com.POSTED!not-for-mail Xref: archive.mv.meer.net alt.support.depression.recovery:3338 On Thu, 08 May 2003 17:43:14 -0500, Bob S wrote: >Well, recently, I'm finally getting some help for my depression. I >found a therapist that seems to be helpful and I started taking Zoloft >to help with the depression and anxiety. > >I realize that one of my biggest problems is with social isolation. >This has been going on for about four years now, and although I take >better care of myself these days, I'm still living like a hermit. My >family is in another state, I don't have any friends outside of work >(all of the friends I had have all moved away), and it basically sucks >because I live by myself. I have a hard time in groups. One on one with a person is not bad, but when I went to a pot-luck party a few months ago, I couldn't stand it. When in a group setting, my mind automatically goes to "they don't like me" mode and I feel very bad about myself in ways I have yet to be able to articulate. I feel extremely uncomfortable and in what I'm guessing is an attempt to control the situation, my facial expressions, where I gaze and how I speak etc. put people off even more. I hate this. It's always, "THEM" and then "ME", even if the other people in the group don't know each other just like I don't know them, in my mind they all like each other and don't like me. Not sure where or how this started. I tend to not feel so much this way if the group of people are mainly senior citizens. If they are in my age group then it is very bad. This whole thing is a definate big issue because I don't want to feel this way when around a bunch of people. NOTE: if you saw me walking down the street, I can tell you right now you would NEVER in a million years think or believe that I have this problem - never. Not becasue I'm talkative or outgoing, but because I just look like somebody who would have a bunch of friends and a spouse. Like you, many of my friends (the people who I felt I could be my best self around AND who would never screw me over) moved to different parts of the country at the same time I moved to where I am now. Article: 3377 of alt.support.depression.recovery From: Mindy Message-ID: Comments: Anonymous USENET posting by Asarian-host Date: Mon, 16 Jun 2003 17:36:17 GMT X-No-Archive: yes NNTP-Posting-Host: news.asarian-host.net NNTP-Posting-Date: Mon, 16 Jun 2003 17:36:17 GMT Posted-Date: Mon, 16 Jun 2003 17:36:17 GMT X-Trace: wF1VfR8gjtpHtJMZqBkidfN+rEnAjSoGUzZUpknXH5g= X-Complaints-To: abuse@asarian-host.net X-Abuse-Info-1: Please be sure to forward a copy of ALL headers X-Abuse-Info-2: Otherwise we are unable to process your complaint Organization: Asarian-host X-Authenticated-Sender: mindy@asarian-host.net Newsgroups: alt.support.depression.recovery Subject: Re: Overcoming Social Isolation... Any Suggestions? References: <3ee8c8bf.12606625@news.pa.comcast.giganews.com> <20030616023939.07705.00001041@mb-m18.aol.com> MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Auth: Asarian-host PGP signature iQEVAwUAPu4AETFqW1BleBN9AQFUegf8DT9SBfDfjTclKMxMEltzbWN8NXlhYY9c sLq1am/QrEjGrhh5kLt1K7g/utJ4VcMNn+n1IVB6d+F4HNHmLqUGpKC7E6bd3k18 Eu2bBWjiCzANt0zxEuGhwrfrK7GI8essU6fQFC+0Elo98TaGQVi29XRTW6iRHKSt hpQrHtutPgh1Fyp3FvGVGPhOXwbnhuaHIv2Be25rdkIQ28N4T2GqupPfj3JPOTbs wjKcjx3BGXvkHAtxoBuESypBsCktsR1MLmeG6X3EK5q2+NnZrj1RIHZ0CS3a22Pk eP4X/LTCCtgZI2bqCfkMZsg6z0VxL2fHCqqN3JSjqA60oSiKLkr9zQ== =LwYa Lines: 26 Path: news.meer.net!sea-read.news.verio.net!dfw-artgen!sjc-peer.news.verio.net!news.verio.net!hammer.uoregon.edu!news.algonet.se!algonet!news.tele.dk!news.tele.dk!small.news.tele.dk!fu-berlin.de!nntp.asarian-host.net!not-for-mail Xref: archive.mv.meer.net alt.support.depression.recovery:3377 X-No-Archive: yes On 16 Jun 2003 06:39:39 GMT, lostbruja@aol.com (Lost Bruja) wrote: >I've also been suffering with isolation. I have a problem just checking the >mailbox. I get to work with no problem but outside of work I stay in my house >and won't go out unless I absolutly have to. I even have a problem getting to >the grocery store. I'm in the process of seeing professional help and should >be on some sort of medication soon. Please email if you feel you would like a >friend. Its a start. You sound just exactly like me. I don't check the mail for days, and I hate grocery shopping so badly that I am willing to live off of bread and butter and water. Mindy -- For more information about this NNTP posting service, contact: help@asarian-host.net -- for all info about our server. If you want an anonymous account, visit our sign-up page: https://asarian-host.net/cgi-bin/signup.cgi