Article: 9393 of alt.support.loneliness Message-ID: <3EBCD4F8.7E4E4510@verizon.net> From: unstable compounds X-Mailer: Mozilla 4.79 [en] (Windows NT 5.0; U) X-Accept-Language: en MIME-Version: 1.0 Newsgroups: alt.support.loneliness Subject: Are you SHY? and need love? Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit Lines: 109 Date: Fri, 09 May 2003 10:29:45 GMT NNTP-Posting-Host: 141.154.237.144 X-Complaints-To: abuse@verizon.net X-Trace: nwrdny03.gnilink.net 1052476185 141.154.237.144 (Fri, 09 May 2003 06:29:45 EDT) NNTP-Posting-Date: Fri, 09 May 2003 06:29:45 EDT Path: news.meer.net!sea-read.news.verio.net!dfw-artgen!iad-peer.news.verio.net!news.verio.net!news.maxwell.syr.edu!wn14feed!worldnet.att.net!199.45.49.37!cyclone1.gnilink.net!spamkiller2.gnilink.net!nwrdny03.gnilink.net.POSTED!53ab2750!not-for-mail Xref: archive.mv.meer.net alt.support.loneliness:9393 I have a pretty hot tip for shy people who have trouble getting dates and would like to find someone to love. You have to make a commitment to yourself to do this, it's an ongoing project. There is a key phrase, you could write it down and repeat it to yourself often. ''100% of what you want 100% of the time'' Everyone can feel have some fear of rejection limit themm this technique works directly on that. Let me use myself as an example here. I'll see a beautiful women walking down the street, or who knows, an ugly one but I really like something about her, let's say it the beautiful one. She is dresssed to the 9s and looks like she wouldn't give a guy like me the time of day, BUT I think she is attractive. At that moment, it's what I want. What time is it? NOW! 100% of what I want 100% of the time. So I approach her, using whatever skill I can muster, and say something like this; ''Excuse me please... hello, I couldn't help but notice you. Would you like to have a date with me this evening? '' (in reality a warm up line is good but steer clear of compliments.. believe it or not, 'hello beautiful' might even work) It doesn't matter if she accepts or declines your invitation. A very important part of this discipline is practicing being rejected. For women, it really is appropriate to ask guys out.. I love it when women do it though it's only happened twice in my life. Don't expect rejection, you wont ask her right. Just ASK. Women really like guys who are straight forward. Go ahead. Pick someone out of your league. Ask her out, or if you want to play with lower stakes for practice, start with simple conversations. I asked a girl today how old she was because I was wondering if such a lovely gal was within my dating range. She enoyed the compliment and I enjoyed a little mingling with a very very nice looking woman, 100% of what you want 100% of the time. No excuses. If you pass up an opportunity, you have to make it up somehow. A woman walked by me today and she looked 'hot', I mean really really sexy (excuse me ladies, I am a gentleman) It was what I wanted. I didn't try to talk with her. I kicked myself because I knew I should and made it up a few minutes later when I came across another lovely lady. I just said ''Hello beautiful'' It made her day. She was all smiles, and a bit of blushing. Rejection gets easier when you practice it. The more it hurts, the less it will next time. I'm going to push the limit with this. I'm going to ask women on dates that I wouldn't dare talk to. I know there is a good chance that to my amazement, I will have a date with a veritable goddess.. and I'll also learn that these women are people too, and some of them will really like me. There's never a promise of romance, that just happens because it is chemistry. Trust chemistry, it isn't about lines or playing it cool. For the guys reading, listen up there is a rule in case you don't know it. Never ever touch a woman unless she extends her hand for a handshake. Not unless you ask permission. Never cross boundaries without carefully asking permission. 100% of what you want 100% of the time. You have to reach for what you want. For gosh sake, you can even proposition a woman for sex (or marriage) if you are polite about it, though it's the best method to practice rejection. Treat everybody with a lot of respect all the time, and yourself too. 100% of what you want 100% of the time, no excuses. Woman can do this too, your job as woman is not to be wallflower, ya know. I know there are plenty of people on this list whose loneliness has nothing to do with being shy or finding someone, this post was intended for people with that problem, not yours, so thank you for understanding. I posted here years ago, and got flamed out by people who were much more interested n staying lonely than doing anything about it. I expect it to happen now too, so flame away. who cares about your anger, really. 100% of what you want 100% of the time. I'll check back to the list. Maybe some of you want to work with me as a team partner, until we do get 100% of what we want, the relationship we crave. Leave a message with 100% in the title, it will catch my eye. ok, flamers, have fun. Article: 9462 of alt.support.loneliness Message-ID: <3EBF2485.92D1C7B9@verizon.net> From: geoff compounds X-Mailer: Mozilla 4.79 [en] (Windows NT 5.0; U) X-Accept-Language: en MIME-Version: 1.0 Newsgroups: alt.support.loneliness Subject: 100% Darkfalz Extrya References: <3EBCD4F8.7E4E4510@verizon.net> <3ebb9555$0$31497$5a62ac22@freenews.iinet.net.au> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit Lines: 57 Date: Sun, 11 May 2003 04:33:36 GMT NNTP-Posting-Host: 141.154.240.231 X-Complaints-To: abuse@verizon.net X-Trace: nwrdny01.gnilink.net 1052627616 141.154.240.231 (Sun, 11 May 2003 00:33:36 EDT) NNTP-Posting-Date: Sun, 11 May 2003 00:33:36 EDT Path: news.meer.net!sea-read.news.verio.net!dfw-artgen!iad-peer.news.verio.net!news.verio.net!newsfeed.icl.net!newsfeed.fjserv.net!newsfeed.news2me.com!cyclone1.gnilink.net!spamkiller2.gnilink.net!nwrdny01.gnilink.net.POSTED!53ab2750!not-for-mail Xref: archive.mv.meer.net alt.support.loneliness:9462 Extrya wrote: > "Darkfalz" wrote in message > news:b9g3n9$j0qd4$1@ID-108208.news.dfncis.de... > > Where do I send my credit card details????? > > > > > > it doesn't require money, just saying : > > ''100% of what you want 100% of the time'' > > and the requirement of a 100% thick hide Ahh but that's the whole point, to develop a thick hide, and also to get practice approaching women, or in the ladies case. men. Excuse me for putting up your usernames, I just wanted to catch you attention. Darkfalz mentioned something earlier about all people liking to hurt people.. well, it is a fact of the downward spiral of civilization, but on the other hand it's just not true. Though we've all felt hurt by people, and don't like being hurt, there are a lot of people in the world who just want to have positive connections and relations with others. Now today I slipped up. A nice looking woman seemed to give me a subtle clue that she wanted to meet me. I took the shy route. So a few minutes later I made myself walk in the direction she went in. There she was in the video store, I went in.. I was playing it cool.. I wanted the meeting to be totally casual. Our eyes caught at close range.. I kept my poker face on .. she kept her poker face on. I let it go at that. The point of the story is I let one go, and that is perfectly contrary to my obligation to myself.. so in order for me to make good, I'm going to have to try higher stakes tomorrow. I imagine maybe one of you would think I'm up to invading woman's personal space with introductions (well that's how a northeasterner would see it) .. I'm up to having mingling going on with women I'm interested in.. the approach doesnt matter. My only obligation to women I want to meet is to be sensitive to where they are at and accept any rejection or rebuff like a casual gentleman would. A truly tactful man could compliment a ladies ass, for example, in a polite way .. but don't try this at home kids. ( ( ) ) |----|} \__/-' `----'